Sep 2023 – Raising Children

بِسْــــــــــــــــــمِ اﷲِالرَّحْمَنِ اارَّحِيم

ٱلسَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ ٱللَّٰهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

Dear Respected Parents & Guardians

We begin the new academic year with hoping you all had a blessed and beneficial holiday and we make duaa that Allah (swt) continues to bless you all in everything.

We would like to extend a warm welcome to all the new families who have joined us, and look forward to welcoming back our returning students and families next week for the start of term. We understand the care and thought that has gone in to your decision to place your children in the Lewisham Islamic Institute, and would like to assure you that we will do our utmost to ensure all students reach their optimum potential.

As the new academic year approaches, many messages have been sent and will continue to be sent via our various channels of communication. Therefore, in order not to flood parents and guardians with an excess of information, we would like to use this opportunity to share a timely reminder on the topic of raising children, as well as a few highlights from some of our events last term.

We look forward to a wonderful year of learning and success, in sha Allah.

JazaakAllah khair

Lewisham Islamic Institute

Most of the students that attend the madrassah also attend mainstream schools during the day. These schools often have segments within their curriculum which are not in line with the tenets of Islam, and our children are often caught in a whirlwind of ideas, resulting in confusion and being unsure of who or what to believe. In addition to this, they are constantly bombarded with peer pressure from friends, and sometimes, family. Issues such as gang crime, interacting with the opposite gender, illicit material, social media and gender identity are all relevant to our children. We wanted to mention some generic advice which we believe will aid us in developing our students’ love for Islam and a Muslim identity.

Ensuring your children are keeping good company

We underestimate the effect of peer pressure and the impact of those that surround our children. Unfortunately, the closest companions that students have today are their laptops and smart devices. We recommend parents and guardians have a healthy awareness of their child’s activities online, whether this be on websites or apps such as Snapchat, Tiktok, Instagram and Facebook. Perhaps consider if your child should have access to these sites at all.

But let us be practical. We cannot be 100% in control of our children at all times. It is impossible. This is why it is key that we instil a genuine love for Islam within our children, so they can maintain their Islam for the right reasons, rather than for the sole purpose of pleasing or appeasing their parents. The fear that a child has for their parents is temporary. I repeat: is temporary. Therefore, it is vitally important we begin the true cultivation process now before it is too late.

Cultivating a genuine love for Islam

Now, one might ask: how is this cultivation started? The frank answer is that it begins with YOU. No doubt, the madrassah, peer groups and external environment of your child are very important, but they do not outweigh the significance of the parents and the household. The primary factor of your child’s upbringing is yourself.

As much as we may wish that the madrassah was a machine which could and would install Islam in to all of our children, the truth is that it simply is not. The number one mechanism to ensure your child is raised upon Islam is you! If parents and guardians are not following Islam or showing a love for Islam, how can they expect their children to do so? Much time is spent speaking about the role of the madrassah which is certainly needed, but the 4 hours a week spent at the madrassah can never outweigh the other 164 weekly hours spent in the household and other environments.

We encourage parents and guardians to approach us if they have any concerns regarding their children, so we may work together in collaboration to ensure students can overcome any social challenges they may be facing.

Additionally, we have developed a new curriculum for our teenage pupils tackling current social issues, which will take place in small focus groups throughout the academic year.

Power of Duaa

Never underestimate the power of duaa, and do not lose hope. If your child makes a mistake, allow them a route back. Children may slip up and make mistakes, but utilise gentle admonition at times. Understand that even if you follow all of the parental guidance on how to raise children, this will not guarantee perfection. Our children will make mistakes.

Think long term, and remember that you are raising a nation; it is not just your child, but it is your grand-children and great grand-children. The key point to take away is that we are in a unique time whereby we can make a change and our children can make a change. Therefore, it is integral that we take advantage of the time we live in, because if we have Islam, our children will have Islam, and if they have Islam, their children will have Islam. And that is what we hope for, in sha Allah.

Finally, it is befitting we make mention of the following duaa found within Surah Furqan:


رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَٰجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّـٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍۢ وَٱجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامً

“Bless us with ˹pious˺ spouses and offspring who will be the joy of our hearts, and make us models for the righteous.”


This year, we had decided to incorporate an Islamic Studies segment to our annual Qur’an Competition… and our students were definitely up to the challenge!

Students had the opportunity to compete against one another in their islamic knowledge as well as their memorisation and skills of recitation. Needless to say, all participants performed exceptionally well under the scrutiny of our judges and a keen audience made up of their peers, family members and staff. Winners were awarded with prizes and everyone received a certificate for their efforts. We hope this has left them with a thirst to compete again next year!

On Sunday 23rd of July, a large group of LII students and staff embarked on an amazing trip to Chessington World of Adventures and had a fun-filled day packed with activities. The students experienced a day of joy, beginning with seeing the gorillas and lions and (for those who dared) finishing with the highest of rollercoasters! Our students demonstrated excellent etiquette and amazing manners when representing the madrassah throughout the day, Alhamdulillah.

During our travel to the amusement park, we held Islamic quizzes and small competitions which set a nice tone for our long journey. We arrived at 10am, affording us plenty of time to explore the sights and experience the thrilling rides. We prayed our salah in jama’ah and enjoyed our lunches, allowing the students to reflect on the fun and connect with their friends from other groups. It was a pleasure to witness many new friendships being made. As we set off for home at 7pm, all the students had smiles from ear to ear, Alhamdulillah. The students should be very proud of themselves just as we are proud of them. They displayed the utmost respect for staff and when dealing with the public. A very well-deserved trip after a busy year of learning!

“Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners”.

Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī

Please see below our calendar for the current academic year.

Headteacher: Abdul Majid King

Deputy Headteacher: Seren Erdel

Email: info@lii.org.uk

Phone: 020 8314 0169

Address: 363-365 Lewisham High Street Lewisham, London SE13 6NZ